Here's some tips and advice for having safe sex with herpes, especially sex with genital herpes or oral sex with cold sores.
When you first get herpes, especially genital herpes, you might be thinking, "My sex life is over!".
It can be intimidating to dive into the dating world again with this new diagnosis...
Well, take a deep breath - your herpes sex life is not over. It's just beginning. You will have to do some things differently, but you can have a healthy full sex life with herpes of any type. Even genital herpes.
Here's some basic changes and precautions you will have to take in order to have a safer sex life with herpes (click on links for more specific advice).
1. Genital Herpes Sex. Basic advice for having safe sex with genital herpes is the following:
2. Genital Herpes Oral Sex. Basic advice for oral sex with genital herpes is the following: avoid sex during outbreaks of any sorts. Be careful and observant of what is going on in your and your partner's body. Take suppressive medication.
3. Oral Sex Herpes. From my experience, Yes, you can have oral sex even with herpes. But remember the golden rule... no sex during outbreaks.
4. Cold Sore and Oral Sex. When you get cold sores, you are getting herpes. It is oral herpes. So don't have oral sex. You do not want to expose the blister to your partner. If you are careful, and don't kiss, you could still have genital sex. This way you could still have safe, fun oral sex even with herpes, but just not during outbreaks, or even "suspicious outbreaks".
The big thing to remember when having sex genital herpes or oral herpes sex is this:
Herpes is highly contagious during outbreaks. And even during shedding. So take suppressive medication and avoid sex during outbreaks. Be honest and open with your partners.
If you do these things, "Yes, you can have fulfilling sex with any type of herpes."
“Sex can still be great, even without an orgasm.” -Kristin Davis quotes (American Actress, b.1965)
Page last updated: April 15, 2014