Dating Someone With Herpes? Here's What to Do...

I'm sure you're aware by now that if you contact the Herpes virus you have it for life. It's a virus that breaks out in small blisters around the mouth (Oral Herpes) or genital area (Genital Herpes).

Genital Herpes has a huge social stigma, and your partner is probably very embarrassed about it, and you're worrying about it. You should be a little.

It's a life changing experience to get Herpes. So here's some tips and advice before date someone with Herpes or if you are dating someone with Herpes.

Tips for Dating Someone With Herpes

Then you should go get tested yourself: HERPES TESTS. That way you'll know if you've already contacted it. Most people (like 70%) with Genital Herpes don't even know they have it.

If you test positive, and your partner is positive ... Great! Since you cannot pass the virus to someone already positive, then you can both enjoy a worry free sexual intimacy.

2. Give Your Partner Lots of Support and Encouragement. It takes lot of courage for your partner to admit they have Herpes to you.

Recognize that. Don't freak out. Listen with your heart. Look into their eyes. Tell them how hard that must have been to tell you that. Give them a real hug. Maybe even cry with them.

Maybe ask them to tell you more about the virus and what it's like to live with it. It's best that you listen supportively.

Don't get sexual when your partner has "The Talk" with you. You'll both be VERY VERY EMOTIONAL better to call it an early evening. Then go home and think about Herpes and your relationship for a couple of days.

IMPORTANT: This shows a lot about a person to admit to you they have Herpes. It shows they are honest, caring, and considerate of their partners. In this day and age, focus on these nice CHARACTER QUALITIES rather than the little virus. TELL THEM YOU ADMIRE their CHARACTER for telling you this.

3. Educate Yourself About Herpes. You'll have to learn about Herpes. This website, Happy-With-Herpes.com, is a great resource to learn about Herpes. But also go do some searches on Google and start learning about this virus.

Dating someone with herpes is simply like dating someone with cold sores (which is oral herpes). It's contagious. It can look awkward. But it is a skin condition that comes and goes. And certainly is not a barrier to TRUE LOVE.

4. Make the Big Decision. Now, you'll have to decide whether to stay with and continue dating someone with herpes.

If you love this person, the decision should be easier. In the grand scheme of relationships, Herpes is a "little skin condition". Your love will be more powerful and more meaningful. Love does conquer all.

But if you're just starting to date someone with Herpes, you'll have to ask yourself: "Is this someone I want to date long term?".

Here's the tough news: if you don't care too much about your new partner, and they have Herpes, maybe you might want to end the relationship. It's a pain to live with Herpes and it's not worth contracting the virus for a quick fling or just to get "laid".

Sex and Dating Someone With Herpes

Make your partner feel comfortable. Take things slow and lovingly. Be careful. Enjoy every little kiss and caress. Breath together.

You'll have to do a few simple things sexually to prevent transmission of the virus:

• Wear condoms. This won't completely stop the virus but it helps.
• Make sure your partner is on suppressive medication. These include Acyclovir and Valtrex. They should take it daily.
• Avoid sexual contact before, during, and after outbreaks. Encourage your partner to tell you when they feel "something" coming on. Then avoid sexual contact during the LINK whole cycle of outbreak.

Here's the GOOD and BAD news. If you follow all these preventative measures, the chances of getting the Herpes Virus is like less than 3%. Many people have long term relationships with a Herpes partner and NEVER GET THE VIRUS.

Enjoy your sex life together. But, there's still that chance with getting the virus if you are dating someone with herpes.

Is It Worth It?

The way to love someone is to lightly run your finger over that person's soul until you find a crack, and then gently pour your love into that crack. --Keith Miller

You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have really lived, are the moments when you have done things in a spirit of love. --Henry Drummond

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