Please Shed Some Light
My boyfriend has HSV-1, in his genital region. He has only ever had one outbreak, and that was about a year ago when he contracted the disease from his last girlfriend. There has been absolutely no sign of any outbreaks since. We have been practicing caution during intimacy and using protection for the duration of our relationship (he was honest with me from the very beginning). He also takes Valtrex daily to reduce the risk of transmission.
About 9 or 10 months into our relationship, we both were tested for both types of the virus and all the tests came out negative for both of us. I am assuming his test was a false negative though, because I hear this is quite common.
So after having said all that, I guess I have questions that cannot really be answered, but they have bothered me nonetheless. I see a future with this man, and one day I want to have his children. I also want to be able to give him what he craves in the bedroom. If we have oral sex (unprotected, without a condom or anything else), am I guaranteed to contract the virus?
I am terrified to do this because I don't know what I would do if I ended up with an outbreak on my lips/face. And even if this does not happen now, but in the future we decide to have children together, am I guaranteed to contract the virus anyway? If this is ultimately who I will be with, do I have no choice but to accept that I myself will have it one day?
I understand no one can actually answer this question, as I have already been told by several doctors. I guess I just need some sort of reassurance or prediction backed up by someone else's experience - which doctors just can't give you. I would be beyond grateful if someone could shed some light on this for me.