How To Tell My Partner??

by Leslie Gonzalez
(Covina, CA United States )

I was recently diagnosed with herpes. I was with my ex for a year and a half and I was 100% loyal to him. About 3 weeks ago I discovered he physically cheated on me.


Prior to discovering I was feeling a bit of discomfort down there so I decided to go to my MD for a check that I needed anyways to renew my birth control prescription. Still not knowing my bf was physically cheating on me, I decided to get back with him and continued having unprotected intercourse. We were back together for only 3 days until I discovered he physically cheated.

About 2 days after that I was contacted by my MD who told me I had bacterial vaginosis and that's why I was experiencing discomfort. I was put on antibiotics and completed them but still did not feel relieved at all. I contacted my MD again and he began me on yeast infection antibiotics. I completed that treatment as well but still did not feel any better.

My symptoms progressed and I began feeling very sick. I experienced headaches, fever, fatigue, back pain and just felt like straight out crap! One night I woke up to my bed sheets covered in blood so I freaked out because I was not expecting a period until 2-3 weeks. I went to the hospital because of the abnormal bleeding I was experiencing and they didn't do much but hook me up to an IV and did a swab test.

The following day I scheduled an urgent gynecologist appointment. When I went in my gyno mentioned to me that my cervix was very inflamed, had abnormal discharge and had several lesions on it. Before leaving my gyno said there's a possibility it could be herpes but I put it in back of my mind and was hoping for the best results.

Results came back today and sure enough I tested positive for genital herpes. My gyno also mentioned to me that this was my first initial outbreak and explained that it would probably be the worst of my outbreaks. She said that more than likely the abnormal bleeding I was experiencing was from the ruptured ulcers I had on my cervix.

I contacted my ex and he's in complete denial about the entire situation. He recently went to get tested and according to him everything came back normal on his part. I don't believe in that so I asked for proof. There's no doubt in my mind that I contacted the virus from him because I was faithful to him throughout our entire relationship and he was the one who got caught cheating. I can't stress enough that there's not a doubt in my mind.

Problem is he doesn't seem to care and he has convinced himself he's all good and is trying to make me seem like some drama queen! I know how I contracted it but how do I convince him of it because he is 100% responsible for infecting me!?

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Oct 11, 2013
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by: Anonymous

I don't understand it and I highly doubt I ever will because I'm better than that. Having the herpes talk wasn't easy for me but I approached the situation like an adult. If he's afraid, I was only 100 times more afraid than he was but yet I provided proof. I just asking for the same in return.


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by: Mary

It sounds like we are talking about the same guy. My boyfriend is saying the same thing and never has any proof.


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