The truth will set you free...

by Gina
(Maryland)

I am a 26 year old female who was diagnosed with Herpes on Christmas day. What a gift... I was horribly devastated and would spend hours just in the shower crying. I thought it was the end of the world. I went through excruciating pain and that was not even why I was so upset. I could deal with the pain and the depression, yes, but the thought of having a husband and kids, I was shattered.


Recently I have met a man who encompasses all of the qualities I could ever ask for. He is a Navy SEAL and a complete gentleman. After I found out I had Herpes, I would not go on one date, for fear of liking someone and having to move forward with telling them. Well, that’s exactly what happened. We began hanging out every day, and I started to feel something I have never felt before. Things were getting hot and heavy a couple of times and I was able to avoid it, but I knew I had to tell him.

This is where things changed for me. Whenever he left I would break down and lose it. I was so afraid of losing him and what we had that I almost thought about breaking it off just so I didn't have to tell him. He was starting to tell me how much he cared and how much he wanted to be with only me...uh ohh

So I went to visit him in VA Beach where he was stationed. One night I just could not hold it in anymore. He asked me what was wrong and I told him I thought it would ruin everything. I continued on to tell him I had an STD, which takes more courage than some can muster.

After telling him and him asking questions... he looked at me and said "I am alright with this. I care so much about you and this information won’t change that". I almost fell to my knees. Day in and out I was so worried about telling him. I would pray, cry, pray, cry... and here he was telling me it didn't matter.

We are still dating and I am starting to really fall in love. He is everything I have ever wanted. Having herpes may be a blessing in disguise for me. I am learning how to treat people better and not take people for granted. A man like this does not come around that often.

My boyfriend will eventually get deployed for 6-10 months. This is going to be really hard but we BOTH made sacrifices to keep love...

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Oct 18, 2012
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you have no idea how badly I needed to hear this story!
by: Anonymous

I have had Herpes, which I got in a monogamous relationship, for a long time. Now that I am free to date, and had a couple of bad experiences, I am TERRIFIED of getting hurt over and over again. But your experience really gives me hope! I know, deep down, that if I find a really good guy and he gets to see my good qualities first, he will be able to accept me. In the meantime, I will be able to weed out the guys who are just looking for a good time.


Nov 06, 2011
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Thank you!
by: Anonymous

Thank you!! I had a similar experience. I was diagnosed a couple days after Christmas. I've been staying in a bad relationship with the guy who gave this to me for fear that no one else will want me. You've given me hope. It's sad that a disease can be so emotionally devastating.


Apr 16, 2011
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Thank you
by: Anonymous

Thank you for your beautiful story. I was diagnosed with genital HSV1 on my friend's wedding day... You're so lovely and I wish the best for you and your navy seal man.


Apr 10, 2011
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To Gina
by: Anonymous

I just wanted to thank you for sharing your story. Ironically, I was also diagnosed with HSV 1 genital herpes on Christmas day. I was completely devastated and my boyfriend immediately got tested after my diagnosis. Thankfully, he somehow never contracted it (he was tested twice) and we continued to have sex but now using protection.

Recently we broke up due to just being at different points in our lives and it has been so hard to cope because I felt that no one would want to date me in the future. I have definitely gone through the same emotions as you and was not sure if I even wanted to date anyone in fear of being rejected. Hearing your story about meeting someone and them accepting you for who you are has honestly helped me so much. Thank you!


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