Kicked While Already Down

I meet/fell in love with my fiancée about a year ago. A week ago I was diagnosed with herpes and I thought my life was over. A week prior to me finding out, he moved to Texas for a job and I stayed in my home town because I have two jobs. It was not an easy talk to have with the love of my life, over the phone, but it had to be done. I told him and he freaked out and stated that I did not get it from him, and that I must have been cheating on him. It was horrible to hear my own fiancée say I was cheating, which I wasn't, because he had just proposed, then moved. He has since then apologized to me, but I have a feeling, he's not telling me something.

Also my "best friend" degraded me when she found out. I have had the same best friend for the last 9 years. We did everything together and I was always at her house. Then something happened. She knew that I had been diagnosed with Herpes and she began to "disappear". One night she called and said that she was going to stay home, since she had no money to do anything. I asked her if she wanted to hang out, and she replied "I don’t know. I will see". She then called me 5 mins later and I kid you not, this is how the conversation went:

Her: "I called the hospital and asked if I had to clean my chairs, after you left, so I did not catch your Herpes".

Me: "...You did what!?"

Her: "I called the Hospital and they said that it was safe for you to come over, and that I could not catch anything from you."

Me: "Well, did you happen to ask them if your stupidity was contagious too?"

**Needless to say, that 9 year friendship ended that night. I cannot believe my fiancée and best friend kicked me while I was down and needed the most. I need help; some suggestions on how to handle recently learning I have herpes and how to handle my fiancée. I was crushed when he did that. I just want to feel normal again.

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Mar 18, 2012
hell with people who leave you while you down
by: pacoruben

Hi, I was diagnosed with genital herpes as well. I told my girlfriend that I have it and she dumped me and shut off all contacts with me the day she dumped me. I went to another doctor for a next opinion and to my surprise I found out that I was misdiagnosed and guess what after that I realized what true love should have been. My girl also left me when I needed her the most and I realized that if she is not by my side when I am down, I don't need someone like her in my life when things are going good.

So I would say you are better off without the people who have disowned you for a stupid reason you will find much better people in your life than them. Please don't let this small little virus define you because herpes does not define someone. It's you who defines yourself please take care and lean on your family for support. As I am sure they will not see in you any other way than what you are.

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