Just told him.. your opinion?

by Amy

I have had herpes for 2 years now. I got it from a man I was suppose to marry. I have had 2 boyfriends since then and I just told my boyfriend of only a couple months, but someone I have known most of my life. He asked me questions and held me for a long time and then he said he didn't know. It has been 4 days and it's still "I don't know". I have decided to give him time of course because it is a slap in the face, but I'm scared and feel so alone right now. I don't want to lose him but its not up to me is it? And thank you everyone for your stories they really helped!!!



Dear Amy,

First of all, congratulations on overcoming your fear and getting the courage to talk to your partner. It's never easy to have "The Talk" but you are already taking a huge step in building your relationship for being honest about it.

Now that you've opened up to him, let them sleep on it. He will need some time to process this new information. But stay calm and supportive. Even try sending him to this website to gain more knowledge about Herpes.

If he cares more about avoiding this little skin condition instead of dating you, then he won't be a good long term partner for you anyway.

And when he does accept you, you are well on your way to love and happiness.

God bless!



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Oct 18, 2012
Alone too
by: Anonymous

I'm feeling alone too. Not sure if he is even trying to process it. I have just been put to the side. The daily all day calls and text have stopped. I feel mostly hurt right now.

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