Just Started Seeing This Girl With Herpes

by Drew

I just started talking to this girl about a month ago. Relationship-wise, she seems to be my perfect match. When she told me about her condition though, I honestly didn’t know what to say or how to feel. I’m looking for something long term, and I think she is too.

I'm sprung and have no idea what to do about it just because of the fact that it's curable and not really a big deal anymore. I like her a lot, and she likes me and we are both willing to give us a chance. I just want to know if I’m making the right choice by being with her and supporting her. Even if we don’t end up getting married or anything, I can tell that we are going to be good lifelong friends >.<

But I don’t know... I just need some advice on how to go about this. I really want to be with her so right now, that’s my choice.


Dear Drew,

First of all, we commend you for considering your girlfriend. It takes a lot of courage to have “The Talk” and she must feel very vulnerable now that she’s opened up to you regarding her condition.

Unfortunately, there is no cure for Herpes yet. It is a virus that can remain asleep inside the body- for life. However, advancements in the pharmacological and medical sectors have developed very effective and powerful medications that can treat and suppress the virus from coming out (and causing outbreaks).

It is necessary that you read up and do your research about Herpes, so you can make well-informed decisions on your part in the relationship. Don’t let this silly virus be a hindrance to what could be a wonderful, fulfilling relationship with this girl. But know your risks and the steps you both can take in the process.

God bless!



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Sep 13, 2013
by: Anonymous 33

Hello can someone please help with my question? I was diagnosed with genitals herpes last August 5, 2013 by experiencing two very small blisters on my left vulgar symptoms was very mild. Before the blisters I was feeling tingling and itching. I immediately went to the Doctor and got medications for tens days to treat it..I've been with my partner for 7 years and this never happened we never had protected sex, and we never gave each other an ST.

The last time we had sex two weeks later I start feeling the tingling, itching and then the blisters appeared. Also in the month of May I had sex with this who I have known forever but everything was fine I had no symptoms of herpes until the last time me and my long life partner had sex.

Could I have gotten it from him or the guy I had sex with only one in time which was in May? Please help me cause I have it and I haven't told my partner and he have no signs or symptoms..

Feb 01, 2012
Be there for her
by: Anonymous

I have just been diagnosed and am absolutely terrified of having to tell a possible partner! My advice to you is to see how your relationship goes. If it doesn't work out don't let it be because of herpes that would make her feel so low. There are ways around not spreading it although condoms are not 100% sure. And neither are suppressants, you just need to be extra careful but can still enjoy an amazing sex life. It sounds like your relationship is good and real, she could be the one, don't throw it away!

Nov 11, 2011
Don't Sweat it.
by: Anonymous

Listen, you're wrong to think it's curable. It's not. However, with proper precautions you guys can make the risk of you getting it is very small.

"If it is a woman infected with HSV 2 having sex with an uninfected male, given the circumstances listed above again, then the transmission rate is about 4% prior to the interventions of condoms and Valtrex."

Source: http://blogs.webmd.com/genital-herpes-intimate-conversations/2005/12/herpes-transmission-facts.html

The most important rule: do not have sex during an outbreak. Research herpes transmission rates and see what's what. You'll be relieved to know it's not so bad.

Most people who infect other people don't know they have it so with your partner knowing, she can let you know when her outbreaks are occurring which in some ways is safer than gambling.

I want to applaud you for your coolness, dude. Most people simply freak out.

Oct 30, 2011
It Absolutely is NOT...
by: Anonymous

...curable. Your young lady friend will harbor the HSV virus in her body for life. You are to be commended for giving it serious thought and for giving her a chance. Start out by building a good foundation of friendship before you jump into an intimate relationship. I'd recommend this to any one entering a new relationship.

There is some very good information out there regarding HSV, please be sure to do your research and understand what you are reading.

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