Just a Little "bump" In The Road
At 21 and in college, I contracted genital herpes from a guy I was dating who guilted me into not using a condom. I had a horrible first outbreak and was bed ridden for nearly a week before I found out what was wrong. I couldn't pee and had flu symptoms - I took antibiotics for what I thought was a UTI, which gave me a yeast infection and diarrhea, which no lie gave me anal fissures...
So I can't pee, diarrhea, had to get stitches in my ass. Yeah pretty much the worst I've ever physically felt in my life. My OBGYN finally told me I had herpes and left me crying in the office with a discount coupon for Valtrex (yay coups!). The boyfriend denied knowing he had it but looking back.... I think he knew and just didn't care.
I stayed with that horrible jerk of a boyfriend for nearly two years because I was so scared that nobody else could ever accept me. I finally found the courage to leave him. I found it very difficult to date at first, I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone and I didn't want a stigma.
However, I met a wonderful person. I avoided having the talk for a little while but when I finally told him, he was shockingly accepting and has never once judged me or made me feel bad. We have an amazing relationship and I'm currently planning our wedding.
I take Valacyclovir (Valtrex) regularly and when I do have outbreaks, we abstain from sex. It still is hard to let him know and I have battles with myself over it, at times I feel "damaged," it's a reminder of that bad relationship, but I am thankful to say I found someone who is supportive and understanding.
Besides having to have an awkward conversation every now and then it really doesn't have an effect on my life. I'm educated, in a healthy relationship and have a great career. My life is full and happy. I just happen to have a little bump every now and then.