Herpes Will Change My Life

by Coping
(Buffalo, New York)

Well, let's just say my wife and I are both professionals living in an upscale neighborhood in the northeast US. My home sex life was failing and my wife was disinterested in having sexual relations with me. I tried speaking with her candidly but she never really got the gravity of the situation. There were years where we would only have sex 2 or 3 times.

My fantasies got the best of me and I began to pursue online escort agencies. It became an addiction of mine. Which I realize now. I contracted HSV 2 and passed it to her and had to spill the beans. She was angry but also understanding sharing the blame.

We were very upset for a a couple of weeks as details of my escapades unraveled. We looked introspectively at our life to determine what went wrong. We came to the conclusion that we were not living a balanced life only seeking financial gratification and professional rewards while ignoring our 2 wonderful boys. We had become angry, self-serving people without any regard for the people we really loved. We wanted to use this as an opportunity to change our life and open our hearts to our family and children.

It's only been a couple of weeks. She is over the initial trauma but I am still having difficulty facing reality. I am also swimming in a sea of guilt. The room has not stopped spinning in 3 weeks and I have not had a good night sleep in a month, even though I have taken medication and am seeing a therapist. I am hoping to see the light soon and transfer my lessons to my children. At first I was looking for a cure. Now I am hoping to see the light and all that having an annoying, non fatal, controllable STD can teach me about life.

I continue to tell myself that this is for the best and that these life lessons would not have been learned if this all did not happen. My wife has amazingly been supportive. I am running out of things to think of and read to console myself. Needless to say that my problem reaches far beyond herpes, but having herpes is definitely not helping. All of this might not have come to light had I not contracted herpes and my relationship with my wife and kids would have undoubtedly deteriorated over time.

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Mar 10, 2014
Know how fortunate you are
by: Anonymous

Dear Coping, there is a silver lining to every bad situation. I also contracted herpes after breaking up with a man I had been with for 5 years. Our relationship had grown toxic, and we didn't work things out properly or through Faith.

When we first broke up, I felt liberated and happy to be having a good time, but when I contacted the virus, my world came crashing down around me and I realized that I had made a lot of terrible decisions. I had the perfect man that would do anything for me, and I walked away for a life of temporary selfish pleasures, with an end result of a lasting painful virus.

What you should know is you are lucky to have a wife that understands, and you can use this tough life lesson to make things better for you and your family. For me, it might be too late with that special someone, but for you, seek the truth and the divinity of God's word and wishes for us, and you will be OK.

I wish I had someone to support me emotionally through this and keep me company like you have in your wife and children. Best wishes.

Jan 07, 2015
Stay positive
by: Anonymous

Hi there, I am sorry to hear what is happening in your life. We are thrown challenges that we have to overcome. You are very fortunate your wife is so supportive of you.

I will let you know that herpes changed my life, for better or worse I have it now. I am such a strong young independent woman now. I make my life what I want it to be.

I tried all the medicines and natural therapies but nothing really helped me. I searched for cures during all my free time. I found a rather risky treatment called hydrogen peroxide therapy (h2o2). You basically drink food grade (not the kind you buy at the store!!) hydrogen peroxide in very low dosages.

After I did the treatment for about 2 months I have not had one outbreak or tingle or anything. I believe I have cured myself. If you search it, there are so many success stories with this treatment.

I can honestly say I am so happy with my life even if the virus is laying dormant in me. I have been free for about a year, which is a huge deal since my first 6-8 months were constant outbreaks.

Good luck and remember that there are so much worse out there than a minor skin condition. This virus is everywhere!

Just remember what is most important to you and follow that!

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