Diseased and Alone

I'm a 17 year old girl and just been diagnosed with genital herpes. I've only ever gone as far as oral sex with this one guy who I thought really cared for me. Until he found out he gave me herpes and I haven't heard from him since.

Now I’ve never been so unhappy and alone in my life and my life has turned upside down ever since. My doctor tells me it’s common and not to stress over but I hate myself for what has happened and I'm so disappointed in myself. I am trying to move forward and be positive about it but all I can think is I'm diseased and dirty. It’s when all I hear in health class is how dirty herpes is and only sluts get them. 2013 officially Sucks.


Dear Diseased and Alone,

What you are feeling right now is understandable. Millions of people live with Herpes. But we find love again. It just takes a bit of patience. Be kind to yourself, love yourself, nurture yourself.

You are not alone in this. One in every 6 people have herpes and even more people have it but don’t show any signs.

If your guy has left you because of this, then maybe he just wasn’t worth your time anyway. Don’t blame yourself or feel embarrassed because it’s not worth it. If anything, you will find that one person who will love and accept you for you.

Perhaps joining a Herpes Support Group might help you? It’s always a relief to talk to someone in the same boat and find out about how they cope up and continue living life despite herpes.

Hang in there. It gets better. It's just tough in the beginning.



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