I got married in November of last year. I married a man twice my age. We have had several struggles with him being verbally abusive and mentally abusive. But aside from that, one day out of the blue he decided to tell me that he has herpes. At the time we had been married for about 5 months I was in complete shock. I had no idea and felt so betrayed. I'm a very loving and kind person and if he would have just been honest ahead of time and prepared me then I may have not freaked out as badly.
However, he said that he thought that if I truly loved him then we could "share" this together. I feel like that's a good thought but he didn't share it with me. He just blindly drug me into and expected me to be OK. I was devastated when he told me. I cried so much and then he yelled at me and said he was sorry for ever touching my innocent ass.
I don't think that's fair at all. I think if he would have just been open and honest from the start then things wouldn't have been so hard to deal with. I also have 3 young children from a previous marriage. Now we are separated because of the abuse and he also started talking to a woman online behind my back and I just couldn't deal with all of that anymore.
But I just don't know where to go from here. I understand that he has deep issues that he probably isn't going to address. But now I'm just stuck out here with this knowledge and feeling all alone.
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