I have contracted herpes about 2 years ago from my ex boyfriend cheating on me. I tried staying with him because I thought I never would find someone who would accept me. Well, that was a failure because I was miserable !!
We broke it off and a year later, I meet this amazing guy. The guy of my dreams and he even is accepting of my herpes. I was even depressed about having it so I broke down and cried to him occasionally, and he makes me feel so much better even to the point that I sometimes forget I have it.
The only problem is when we have sex. He hates condoms and always asks if we can risk it and him not wear any. I always say no. I would be devastated if I gave him herpes. Especially if we aren't going to end up married.
My gyno doesn't want me on medication because I am only 22 and she says if I am on it everyday, over years I am going to have liver problems so it's only necessary to go on when I have an outbreak more than 3 times a year. So far I've only had 1 outbreak.
So do I need to use condoms with my new man of my dreams?
How risky is the shedding?
Would him showering right after sex reduce the chances of him getting the virus?