Answers Please!

by Anonymous

I've been seeing this guy for a while now and he told me he has genital herpes. At first I was terrified I am a play it safe kind of girl, I never take risks. He was honest about it. He was diagnosed about 4 months ago after his girlfriend of a year and a half cheated on him. I'm only 18 and he's only 19 so I have to say I'm terrified.

I know it doesn't make him a bad person I just feel like with the circumstances that's a lifelong commitment that I'm not ready to take. This website really helped me. I was terrified. I couldn't just walk away from such a good person but at the same time I don't feel as if I'm ready to take that risk.

I would just like to know if there are any long term couples who have successfully protected their uninfected partner from hsv2 and what are my odds of getting it if we're safe? I told him I want him in my life and I won't be with anyone else but I don't feel ready to be active with him. I guess I'm just looking for support and answers. Thank you, please respond.


Dear Anonymous,

That’s mighty brave and honest of you to consider being with him despite herpes. If only more people were just as open and accepting of this condition as you are.

Now that you’re making an informed decision, you both have to be extra careful during intimacy. There are just certain adjustments that both of you as a couple have to make but they don’t have to be a deal breaker in your relationship. Start of by reading our article regarding Sex with Herpes. It contains loads of advice on how to stay safe with your partner in the bedroom.

Thank you once again for sharing your story. Perhaps other readers of this website can share their experiences as well.

God bless.



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