There is Love in Life After an HSV Diagnosis
I was married for 23 years and was diagnosed with HSV2 just before my divorce became final. Needless to say, I was devastated. How would I ever be able to enter the dating world again? Once the dread and panic subsided, I realized that I was still the good, loving woman I had been prior to the diagnosis. I still carried the traits of integrity and honesty which had always been part of who I was and continue to be. I put my fears aside and started reading and doing research about herpes.
A colleague, who had retired and moved away but with whom I had stayed in touch, became a close friend through emails and phone chats. One night when I was feeling particularly lonely and sad, I told him I had herpes and wondered how I'd be able to enter into a relationship again with a non-H partner and admitted that I was resolved to perhaps living without an intimate partner/mate for the rest of my life. I had my family, my friends and my volunteer activities which filled my life and all in all, it wasn't so bad.
Well... not too long ago, my friend called to say "I'm tired of loving you from afar" (we would see each other several times a year when he would come back to town to visit friends and family), "I'd like your permission to actively woo & pursue you." When I reminded him about the HSV2 he said it didn't matter to him, he had done the research himself and he was willing to take the risk because I was MUCH MORE than the virus. I've always had mild and infrequent outbreaks and was not on any of the meds since I was not in a relationship. I am now on suppressive therapy (Acyclovir) and we couldn't be more in love or happy.
There is love in life after being diagnosed with HSV.