Never Having "The Talk" AGAIN!
by Fed Up
I contracted herpes 5.5 years ago from this a-hole I was dating. I remember it like it was just yesterday, he said he didn't know what I was talking about and stopped calling. I hadn't been with ANYONE else in TWO YEARS before that and was tested in that time all Negative! I have NOT been "OK" with any of it! I pretty much stopped dating since then because I can't even face the issue, let alone want to admit to anyone else.
Recently I met someone who I like a lot. We've been dating about 3 months and haven't had sex. As things started getting more intimate, I avoided him, because in fairness, I didn't want to take his choice away from him as it was taken away from me. So I decided it was time for the talk. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. It's only been a week since the talk, we still talk on the phone but his sexual aggression has practically ceased. It's a hard decision to make, so I'm giving him time to process it, but to be honest, I can't ask him to do something that I probably wouldn't.
My conclusion, I will probably never EVER have "The Talk" with anyone ever again. When people have sex, they know there is a risk of this disease. I will do my part to avoid transmission, but I will NOT sit here and have someone within the first few months of dating know my business and make a decision if "I'm worth it". Three months is not enough time to consider that. I know it seems mean, but I was so vulnerable having that discussion and still feel that way. I dunno what he is thinking, I'm not sure if this is going to work, maybe it will but right now I'm feeling terrible.
This disease SUCKS! I HATE IT and I HATE the man who gave it to me! But unfortunately, I don't feel like this is a disease that people should learn to be "HAPPY" with. There needs to be a push for a cure so we can stop being classified negatively over a disease that is nothing more than an annoyance.