Madly in Love
I actually wrote on here for advice a little over a year ago. I was nervous, scared, a wreck. I actually just read the post and it made me smile thinking of how much I've changed. When I began seeing my now boyfriend I was so happy to find someone as great as him but when he told me he had herpes it literally took my breath away. I was scared and confused and I won't lie I thought about ending it.
What stopped me was realizing that it doesn't define him but leaving him over it would define me. Here I was hopelessly in love with someone who had herpes. I wouldn't not be with someone who had diabetes? So why should this be any different? He is a great person and I'm glad I didn't miss out. I’d like to add that I am STD free and we have SAFE sex regularly. We are very young 19 & 21, so all these young people on here who feel hopeless, don't.
So my advice to anyone thinking about getting into a relationship with someone who has herpes is to make sure it’s what you want because it is a risk and a commitment. Don't judge them and keep an open line of communication. Take your time... don't do anything if you're not sure and always remember it’s their business to tell not yours. Keep it private. Always use protection.
And my advice for anyone with an STD wanting a relationship TELL THEM BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING SEXUAL. I know its embarrassing for you but you have to be able to talk openly and honestly with your partner about it. Be as serious as keeping your partner protected as they are when it comes to herpes.
Don't be ashamed you are still a person but also don't act like it’s not a big deal just deal with it for what it is. Be kind, understanding, and patient cause it might take that person a while to come around but most likely they will. Most importantly you are you not the STD. Love yourself endlessly.