Madly in Love

I actually wrote on here for advice a little over a year ago. I was nervous, scared, a wreck. I actually just read the post and it made me smile thinking of how much I've changed. When I began seeing my now boyfriend I was so happy to find someone as great as him but when he told me he had herpes it literally took my breath away. I was scared and confused and I won't lie I thought about ending it.

What stopped me was realizing that it doesn't define him but leaving him over it would define me. Here I was hopelessly in love with someone who had herpes. I wouldn't not be with someone who had diabetes? So why should this be any different? He is a great person and I'm glad I didn't miss out. I’d like to add that I am STD free and we have SAFE sex regularly. We are very young 19 & 21, so all these young people on here who feel hopeless, don't.

So my advice to anyone thinking about getting into a relationship with someone who has herpes is to make sure it’s what you want because it is a risk and a commitment. Don't judge them and keep an open line of communication. Take your time... don't do anything if you're not sure and always remember it’s their business to tell not yours. Keep it private. Always use protection.

And my advice for anyone with an STD wanting a relationship TELL THEM BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING SEXUAL. I know its embarrassing for you but you have to be able to talk openly and honestly with your partner about it. Be as serious as keeping your partner protected as they are when it comes to herpes.

Don't be ashamed you are still a person but also don't act like it’s not a big deal just deal with it for what it is. Be kind, understanding, and patient cause it might take that person a while to come around but most likely they will. Most importantly you are you not the STD. Love yourself endlessly.

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Jun 27, 2015
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by: Anonymous

Multinational companies always required skillful people in their companies. Because skillful person at rush always make the company benefit. Skillful person work for the company very honestly and patiently.

Oct 20, 2014
Thanks for sharing, can I ask a question?
by: Anonymous

Thanks for sharing.

I fell in love with someone who told me about their diagnosis of herpes.

I appreciate how you were able to share your view point as the person who doesn't have the diagnosis within the discordant relationship.

I am in a indecisive state and had questions. How long have you guys been using condoms and do you use condoms 100% of the time? Is he asymptomatic or does he get outbreaks occasionally?

I guess I'm hoping to find someone who is using the condoms for a while and never transmitting the virus.

Either way, I admire your confidence and courage. I think it's a good idea to look past a condition of herpes if you feel the relationship is worth it. I believe that some relationships are worth it, and I need to conscientiously think if mines is worth it.

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