Madly in Love

I actually wrote on here for advice a little over a year ago. I was nervous, scared, a wreck. I actually just read the post and it made me smile thinking of how much I've changed. When I began seeing my now boyfriend I was so happy to find someone as great as him but when he told me he had herpes it literally took my breath away. I was scared and confused and I won't lie I thought about ending it.

What stopped me was realizing that it doesn't define him but leaving him over it would define me. Here I was hopelessly in love with someone who had herpes. I wouldn't not be with someone who had diabetes? So why should this be any different? He is a great person and I'm glad I didn't miss out. I’d like to add that I am STD free and we have SAFE sex regularly. We are very young 19 & 21, so all these young people on here who feel hopeless, don't.

So my advice to anyone thinking about getting into a relationship with someone who has herpes is to make sure it’s what you want because it is a risk and a commitment. Don't judge them and keep an open line of communication. Take your time... don't do anything if you're not sure and always remember it’s their business to tell not yours. Keep it private. Always use protection.

And my advice for anyone with an STD wanting a relationship TELL THEM BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING SEXUAL. I know its embarrassing for you but you have to be able to talk openly and honestly with your partner about it. Be as serious as keeping your partner protected as they are when it comes to herpes.

Don't be ashamed you are still a person but also don't act like it’s not a big deal just deal with it for what it is. Be kind, understanding, and patient cause it might take that person a while to come around but most likely they will. Most importantly you are you not the STD. Love yourself endlessly.

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Feb 12, 2017
I don't have a herpes but my Love does
by: Anonymous

Hi, I'm not sure if can be here but I have a bf and he told me he has a hsv2, that was last month, and yes we already had sex when he told it to me. I don't know if I have it but I really don't care cause I love my bf so much.

And I've been reading about herpes a lot after that, and then I saw this site and I've read a lot of stuff here and read so many depressing things.

I just want people to know that don't be disgust by yourself and I know it's easy for me to say it, but I'm gonna be honest I was so scared when he told me that because I had no idea what was hsv2 lol, then I searched about it and read a lot of articles about it and they said it's pretty common these days. I know a lot of people judge it but those people doesn't know how strong you are guys, Hands down on you guys because you were able to handle this condition, yes I know it's hard for you, I'm not trying to be a hero thingy here I'm just saying this because my BF has it too I saw how hard it was for him and how sad he was, he even told me we can be together even without sex and I was like no hell no lol and he even told me I can leave him and he'll understand but I couldn't because I love him so much.

And for those people who are scared to date, don't be scared because If that person really loves you for who you are they can handle it I might get little hard for them at first but I'm sure that they'll accept you if they really love you.

And you guys are brave

Oct 20, 2014
Thanks for sharing, can I ask a question?
by: Anonymous

Thanks for sharing.

I fell in love with someone who told me about their diagnosis of herpes.

I appreciate how you were able to share your view point as the person who doesn't have the diagnosis within the discordant relationship.

I am in a indecisive state and had questions. How long have you guys been using condoms and do you use condoms 100% of the time? Is he asymptomatic or does he get outbreaks occasionally?

I guess I'm hoping to find someone who is using the condoms for a while and never transmitting the virus.

Either way, I admire your confidence and courage. I think it's a good idea to look past a condition of herpes if you feel the relationship is worth it. I believe that some relationships are worth it, and I need to conscientiously think if mines is worth it.

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