Living with Herpes-2...I mean LIVING

Hi everyone...I have HSV-2 and I share my story because I want to give hope and take a little weight off your shoulders. I found out I am living with herpes-2 a year and half ago. I was devastated. I remember thinking my life was over. No one will ever want me. Why couldn't they just tell me I have cancer...it was a death sentence at the time. I remember the silence in the Drs office...and then my hyperventilating. It was by far the WORST day of my life. I contracted it from a man who I had trusted. I had the classic primary outbreak...you name it I had it. I was so sick and emotionally a mess. I drove to a spot overlooking the ocean (no I wasn't suicidal but I did think about dying) and curled up in a ball in my car...I wailed for hours. Hopeless, empty and alone.


Fast forward to today. I spent many months thinking I WAS herpes...I wasn't that smart, fun loving, compassionate, kind, hard worker or daughter, sister, aunt, friend or coworker. I was herpes. It is only recently that I now have accepted that herpes does not define me...it does not make me any less of a person. I have a lot to offer someone who will accept me for who I am not reject me for something I got.

The "talk" continues to be on my mind. I don't have the same sexual freedom as my peers. I believe now however that the HSV-2 diagnosis helps me to find people who are interested in ME and not just for sex. I don't engage in casual sex because I want to get to know someone and feel ok with having the "talk" if things progress. I also believe being forced to hold out on sex allows potential partners to get to know the REAL ME...not the woman with an STD.

Sure I have my bad days when I wish I could be living without herpes, but that is not possible. It will not kill me, it really is just a nuisance at times.

I take medication everyday to keep the outbreaks away because I was having frequent outbreaks. Since starting this my perspective has shifted because I am not constantly reminded by outbreaks that I am living with herpes.

So I want you to take from this...that you are not herpes...herpes does not define who you are nor does it have to control you. Unfortunately society does not understand what herpes really is...it's not dirty, it's very common, it's manageable and does not reflect in anyway what kind of person you are.

I am not dying from herpes. I am living with herpes. And by living I do not mean I am merely existing I mean I am living life...and herpes can not take that away from me.

;)

Comments for Living with Herpes-2...I mean LIVING

Average Rating starstarstarstarstar

Click here to add your own comments

Mar 15, 2016
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Easier way to dating with herpes NEW
by: Anonymous

Living with herpes is not easy. Dating with herpes is harder. Fortunately, sites like http://www.bestherpesdating.com help people with herpes to reduce much risk to be refused.

Mar 13, 2016
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
herpes hope NEW
by: Anonymous

Hi,
Recently Bill hallford has declared to launch the clinical trials for his vaccine, You can ask more questions from him & join the blog.

https://liveherpesvaccine.com/2016/03/12/rvx-therapeutic-hsv-2-vaccine/

Feb 24, 2016
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Biherpesdating.com ranked the best herpes dating sites NEW
by: Anonymous

Herpes dating is a very difficult nowadays. There are many singles with herpes who are positive living and dating with herpes, they are hopeful for meeting and dating positive singles in the future. Biherpesdating.com is a STD dating community is working on herpes dating advice, tips, resources and more about herpes.

Oct 01, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Fas Tester NEW
by: Fas Tester

Thank you for your post, I look for such article a long time, today I finally find it. This post gives me lots of advice it is very useful for me. Amazing stuff shared here

Sep 17, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Aubree NEW
by: Anonymous

Thank you so much a huge amount of! That i look at the articles or blog posts together with listed affordable any helpful tips which i subsequently put to use to choose the very best custom essay writing uk to by chance put to use all this time. Always keep churning released this level of detail meant for as well as other individuals for example average joe.

Sep 17, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Property Managers Regina NEW
by: Property Managers Regin

Thanks for sharing great stuff. You did work very well. I am happy to find this website useful and informative. I like to say bundle of thanks for this stuff. Thanks for sharing and keep on sharing

Sep 16, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Russian legal translator Abu Dhabi NEW
by: Russian legal translator Abu Dhabi

Thanks for sharing this We are really grateful for your blog post. You have done a great job. I will definitely dig it and personally recommend to my friends. Very nice share and keep it up

Sep 16, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Immigration consultants Canada NEW
by: Anonymous

The post is written in very a good manner and it contains many useful information for me.Immigration consultants Canada

Sep 03, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Apps that help NEW
by: Anonymous

Hi guys,I just want everyone to know never to give up believing there is someone out there for you even though you have std! We are very happy with each other and STD dating apps made it possible for us to find each other. Don't pass a good thing, you never know what it may evolve into.Good luck on your search and wish you the best:)

Aug 21, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
I read your all posts NEW
by: Anonymous

I read your all posts. After reading this post, I really appreciate your great work and I want to say please share us more post in the next days. Keep it up. cream storage boxes with lids

Aug 19, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Good NEW
by: anderson

"

Unarmed Security Guard Companies


Unarmed Security Guard Companies - More often than not, your business, organization or event will need a security company to prevent criminal activity and keep order, but won’t need an armed company to do that. Just because the company you’re hiring will not have armed officers does not mean that the training levels or other qualifications of the company are any less important.

"

Aug 11, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
2015 Best Herpes dating sites reviews NEW
by: Anonymous

Now that you know you have genital herpes, you're out of the dating game, right? Absolutely not. There's no reason to stop looking for love and fun. Reviews of the 2015 best  herpes dating sites on the internet, including feature lists, costs and more. Find the best herpes dating website suits for you to join!

Aug 09, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Handbags uk NEW
by: Anonymous

The man himself, Louis Vuitton replica handbags uk online, is absolutely a legend. In 1852 he was assassin as Napoleon’s wife’s box maker and packer. This formed able-bodied for Vuitton as it gave him a aperture to aristocratic French clientele. Afore all of this however, Vuitton grew up in a hePortrait-Louis-Vuittonavily abounding breadth 300 afar alfresco of Paris. In the bounce of 1853, a 14-year old Vuitton ran abroad from home and began his adventure to Paris on foot. It took him two years to adeptness Paris, acrimonious up odd jobs on the way to advice accounts himself, he adeptness the city-limits of adulation at the aiguille of the automated anarchy at age 16. He formed his way up the ladder beneath the application Monsieur Marchel, a box maker. Afterwards his afterlife in 1892, Vuitton’s son, Georges Vuitton took the cast to the next level, and created the acclaimed LV cipher book which we see so abundant of today. From then, the Louis Vuitton cast grew into apple acclaimed affluence covering and affairs brand. Today, the cast has broadcast above just affluence covering appurtenances but into ready-to-wear accoutrement and accessories for both men and women.You don’t accept to be a appearance enthusiast to admit a Louis Vuitton Replica bag. As one of the a lot of accepted cipher printed handbags out there today, Louis Vuitton replica handbags are classic, around-the-clock pieces of art. You are apprenticed to acquisition a bent bag for your affairs as they appear in a ambit of silhouettes and sizes. Prices alpha at about $950 for the Speedy 25.

Mainly I’ll focus on the accepted Chanel replica handbags cipher print, which appearance a aphotic amber covering as a abject and a lighter caramel amber adumbration formed for the monograms.

Jul 07, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
My herbal regimen works! NEW
by: Anonymous

I too was consumed devastated when I found out I had herpes without having sex...I got sores in my nose and inside my mouth...evidently after having a misfortune of kissing someone on the fourth date.
My doctor informed me that close to 70% of population nowadays have herpes without even knowing it.
I was having breakouts while taking Valtrex and using rinse, then I researched and came across herbal treatment with L-lysine 1000 mg taken away from food with Red Marin Algae. It saved me from embarrassing and painful sores. Even after dermatologist froze some pre-cancerous spot on my lip and gave me prescription for Valtrex as it certain sure triggers the outbreaks.
I just decided to stay on my herd regimen and sure enough IT WORKED! I got both products at Vitamin shop. L-lysine is Solgar brand.

Jul 07, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Top Herpes dating sites reviews 2015 NEW
by: kernel joro

Nice information and it is useful for all.Looking for Best Herpes Dating Sites?
Before Going to Join Herpes dating sites Please check Reviews once.We Provides Top 10 Herpes Dating Sites Reviews and Ratings.

Jun 17, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Good post NEW
by: Lexi Beatty

Hello! Your site is great!

I also have a wedding dress blog and want to publish one of your article on it if it's possible?


I will link at you after publishing! Thanks for answering!

Jun 17, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Education NEW
by: Anonymous

If the education is not easily available in the society then it is not good for the country. Education and uk dissertation writing services are the only thing that can make the people successful in the society and make the people rich in the society.

Jun 03, 2015
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
what other herbal remedies NEW
by: Anonymous

I had been diagnosed with Herpes 1 and 2 present in my mouth and nose.
After few dates a nab kissed me on my mouth- few weeks later I got sore spots in my nose and then- my mouth.
Yes, one can get genital herpes in the mouth without intercourse...Apparently man I was dating had been engaged in oral sex....
I am getting outbreaks while taking meds and using prescription rinse.
Question to Roger- what other herbal meds you have been using.
It is still very new to me and I am consumed with that every moment of the day.

Nov 24, 2014
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
thank u
by: Anonymous

Hello Living With Herpes! Ur story has been truly been aspiring! Thank u for posting such helpful thoughts n ur journey with this "virus"... it has truly made me rethink how I can go on n move on from this... again thank u n God Bless :-)

I wish there was a way I could possibly tlk to u as a one on one.


Sep 11, 2014
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
What Now
by: Worried and Scared

I admire that you all are comfortable and accepting Herpes. I am young, very young and as of today I found out I am young with herpes. Even while typing this i am just devastated. Like most of you stated... not enough words can explain how I feel right now. I don't know my next step and I'm scared to take the next step. I am alone. I want to be happy and I know it will take time, but how much time?


Sep 08, 2014
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Me too :)
by: Anonymous

Girl, I feel ya. I found out I have herpes 1 about a month ago. I think it is awesome you can actually share with people how it felt. I actually just started doing the same thing (if you want to read it, it is at http://herpeshappens.co)

But yeah. Herpes sucks. I am still in the stage of constantly thinking about it. Every time I talk to a new guy I keep thinking "when do I have to tell him? Is there ever a right time?"

Well thank you :)


Aug 30, 2014
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Herpes Dating
by: Cara Blak

Nice experience and a good thing to share with all Herpes people. They have their life and they have the rights to live accordingly. There are also many herpes dating site to find love for them. I have a very good site for them to share. This is absolutely free for dating and also promotes herpes awareness.


Aug 25, 2014
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
Ugh
by: Anonymous

How do I have "the talk" with someone that I'm in a serious relationship with. It's so hard. I feel like shit.


Jul 20, 2014
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
What test did you get?
by: Anonymous

This is to answer from the comment above... I just got two conflicting LAN results a week apart one with neg for hsv1/2,and one with positive HSV 1 and 2 ... I am scared out of my mind at the moment and the test is IgG ... So the HSV 2 is less than 3 and read on the web it might be false positive so I will go and use western blot test... Have you done that? If not, I highly recommend. Even if the test comes back positive you don't lose anything.

Anyways, going back to the situation, I can understand her fears of not wanting to catch anything as we all would consider if given the choice. But I have to believe if she really love you and you are careful, she still can be safe. I am new at this and I sincerely hope this lady or the woman of your dream would love you enough... If not, just think about it, you may have avoided a bad outcome anyways. There is no guarantees in life... If she can't accept who you are than you will find someone who can. Hope all works out for you.... The Lord is good!


Jul 01, 2014
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
cured
by: Anonymous

Hi there,

Just wanted to let people know there is a possibility of being cured. I had genital herpes 3 years ago and tried two herbs being astralagus and another one. I've now had no outbreaks for more than 12 months, I've had 4 blood tests that are all negative and the Doctor can't explain it but says its true but to be careful as there are other strains of genital herpes apparently. Anyway happy to help ppl with further details as I think I'm one of the only ppl cured from it.

Roger


Jun 25, 2014
Rating
starstarstarstarstar
I only wish
by: Anonymous

I just met the woman of my dreams I wanted to make sure I had nothing. I am 49 now and I have never noticed anything. I was married for 20 years and did not transmit anything to her. Well I was just told I have Herpes and looking back when I was 18 or 19, I remember having what I thought was pimples on my genitals that is when I believe this is when I caught it. I have only been with 3 women since I was 20.

I told the woman I fell in love with yesterday that I have herpes at first it was shock a lot of crying and now she is trying to figure out what to do. To be honest, I wish they had told me I have 2 days to live. Just the thought of loosing her to this is more than I can even bear. It is pushing me to the brink. I hope my story ends like yours but I really have my doubts.

I am not trying to be negative. I know if it was the other way around and she told me I would be OK with it as I know I could not even think of not being with her. But now I am forced to look at the cold hard truth that she may reject me now due to this. Only time will tell.

I have been through a lot in my life. I mean a lot. I was sexually molested as a child, alcoholism, drug addiction, I am even gifted with bipolar, PTSD, and a couple of other mental health issues. I have striven and have overcome all of these......but this is totally different right now I am a lost for words. All I can do is pray and right now I do not even know if that is enough.


Click here to add your own comments

Return to Success Stories.