I’ve been living with Genital Herpes for awhile now. It started after graduating from college with a girl I was dating for a few months.
Like most of you, I was in complete shock with my diagnosis. I had flu-like symptoms about a week before the sores began appearing on my genital area. That's when I went to see a doctor and got tested.
I got the dreaded news a few days after that. I remember feeling very horrible. I couldn't believe what was happening. I broke up with the girl I was dating soon after because I was too embarrassed and scared.
Life took a turn after that. I spent years and years hiding in “a cave” of my own doubts and insecurities. I was isolating myself from the rest of the world which made my health spiral downwards.
Until one day, I snapped out of it! I realized that enough was enough and that I had to do something to get better. I was no longer going to allow this silly little virus to take over my life!
And that’s when I started my healing process... now I've been living happy and healthy with herpes and paying it forward to others in the same situation. This website is a testimony of that.
Here are a few tips I would like to share with you from the years of experience with living with genital herpes:
Personally, I've given “The Talk” so many times now which I make sure to do BEFORE I become intimate with a non positive girlfriend.
There are, in fact, a lot more people who are open-minded about dating someone with herpes than we would think. So being this honest early on in the relationship is vital to establish trust.
From here on you can tell those who truly care for you from those who are just looking to have a good time. The ones who care for you will appreciate your bravery and honesty... but remember, they have to be given a choice.
While there is no cure for genital herpes yet, it can definitely be managed.
Start by having a proactive stance in treating yourself, especially when you feel like an outbreak is coming. Antiviral drugs are extremely effective when taken within the first 12-24 hours of an outbreak. You can get them very cheap at off-shore pharmacies!
In living with genital herpes, understand your body and know which triggers can cause outbreaks. Then stay away from those. Over time, your outbreaks will become less frequent as your body has had the chance to produce antibodies against the herpes virus.
Consider suppressive antiviral therapy when you’re actively dating. This helps keep outbreaks at bay and limit the chances of transmitting the infection. Safe sex is always recommended because the absence of sores does not mean you aren’t contagious.
With all that precaution, it doesn’t mean that you’re sex life is over! You can still have a rich, fulfilling life in and out of the bedroom. In fact, lots of us go on to date, get married, and even have healthy babies (for the women).
Being diagnosed with genital herpes is not a death sentence. You might experience some inconveniences living with genital herpes from time to time, but do know that herpes is NOT FATAL.
In other words, it won’t kill you.
In a nutshell, herpes really is just a minor skin condition that can be easily dealt with. Slowly, you can learn to accept it as a part of your life... just like I did. It really doesn't happen overnight.
But once you overcome the initial emotions of anger, upset, sadness, or embarrassment, only then can you start on the road to recovery in every sense of the word.