If I am not having an outbreak can I have a guy go down on me? Will it spread to him as oral herpes, or is it only a risk when I have an outbreak?
I am 23 years old and I was diagnosed with herpes this past February. It has been a hard road, especially since the guy who gave it to me handled it so poorly. He was someone I had an off and on thing with for a couple years so I trusted him when he told me he was clean. I think that is one of the hardest parts about this, that someone that I trusted and truly cared for could do this to me. After I saw the way he handled it (and we haven't talked since I called him out about it), I have started to think that he knew the whole time that he had it and just thought he wouldn't spread it so he didn't say anything, which is even worse.
It has been really hard cause although my best friends know, I feel as though I have no one to really talk to about it. They just don't get it, I can be told a million times that I will find love, and that people don't think I'm gross but actually taking those thoughts and feelings away is a lot harder to do. Do you have any advice on how to calm my mind and take away the feeling that I'm damaged goods?
I haven't had sex since I found out and to be honest I don't know much about spreading it. I am taking acyclovir everyday cause if I don't, I get outbreaks like crazy. I miss the joys of hooking up and being intimate with a guy but I'm not sure how it can spread so I am afraid to do so.
So here are my final questions, are my transmission risks lower since I take the medication every day? Can I have a guy go down on me and not risk giving him oral herpes?
Thanks for taking the time to help me out, I am new to blogging and am really just trying to find some guidance and comfort from people who also have this.