I kissed a guy with no visible cold sores, and a few days later the corner of my mouth started getting tingly, I had a cold sore outbreak. Later, I had a throat infection and I was very sick for a few days, which I found it is something that can happen when you get them.

A while after that, he performed oral sex on me and I was too stupid not to stop him, and I also got them on my labia. I feel dirty, like it's somehow a form of punishment for doing that.

I'm so mad at him and at myself, I feel like he made me sick and it's his fault that I'll have to deal with this for the rest of my life. At times I think that I'm being unfair because he might not even know that he's carrying the virus.

I'm too afraid to confront him about it and I don't know what to do. I also have a rather weak immune system and I'm getting outbreaks pretty often, which makes things even worse; I'm so ashamed of them. I wish I had known better.

I am 64 and I just found out! I too never had an outbreak and have no idea how long I have had it. The guy I have been seeing for 18 mos broke out with it and that is how I discovered it. He is furious and I don't blame him.

I just found out that I'm diagnosed with herpes 1 and 2, and the father of my child had given it to me. I'm so angry at him and wanted to kill myself when I first find out I was diagnosed. We live together, but I constantly ignore him and his phone calls because I'm angry and feel betrayed, and not sure if I want to stay with him. I don't think he knew he had it because he never got tested.

Help! Any advise?

Seems like we're all going through the same thing. I'm 30 and just had my first outbreak. The guy who gave it to me has had cold sores but didn't tell me. So it's a two in one package, I've been infected orally and in the genitals even though we used a condom. I should have known better because I've heard that you can pass the virus on orally, but I guess I didn't believe it would happen to me. Or maybe I thought the guy would at least tell me.

Anyway, I'm really struggling with this and I'm really afraid of what's going to happen in the future. Not sure if anyone will want to be with someone with herpes. But this has made me appreciate so much more of the positive things in my life - my close friends have been more than supportive after I got the courage to tell them.

Feeling very scared...

I definitely know how you feel about the anger and depression. I still feel that way at times. I found out in February of this year. It was the most devastating news I have ever had. The thing to remember is that anger is not going to fix the problem, and certainly doesn't help the depression.

The moment I stopped being angry at the person who gave it to me, I felt better about myself. This is a very hard thing to cope with but my friends and family who I have shared my news with have been greatly supportive. It is the dating thing I am petrified to do it. I will stay with my current boyfriend as long as I can.

Although I don't feel he's the one, I feel trapped and like no one else wants me...it makes me so sad :( My ex boyfriend told me he had herpes simplex 2 AFTER we had sex unprotected. He acted like it was a joke, but it wasn't. I hated him so much for doing this by choice, giving me his disease. But the thing I learned in all of this is how hard it is to live normally after you are diagnosed, every thing changes.

Some people are weak minded and chose to ignore it and have sex with people with out telling them. That IS NOT OKAY! But I know that not every one must have the strength to change their lives and take responsibility for their actions, and I chose to forgive him. No one wants to be alone, but please people do not let anyone down play the importance of sharing your secret to people before you have sex with them.

Every one deserves a heads up at least. It is so important to be honest. And when someone chooses to be with you any way, they truly love you. So dating is not over, it just changes for us. Keep your head up- you are every bit as beautiful and special as you were before this obstacle. Stay thinking positively and feel good about yourself.. when you do this, you are then more attractive to others.

I just found out an hour ago. I felt like killing myself. I looked at myself in the mirror and all I saw was "tainted." :/

~ So I asked myself why I felt this way? I think it's because we hear the word " herpes" and freak bc of all the hype that comes with the word. I dunno how I'm going to tell my new girlfriend...AHHH

FYI: Apparently stats are a bit skewed bc the groups they're accounting for have all been tested and many never get tested: Apparently over 50% of people have Herp type 2.

So I guess we're the majority :)

I'll hang in there if you will too!

I'm 30 and I just found out I have it too. I still can't say the word. I'm so unhappy, I played it safe all my life never really slept around. I trusted my first love who I was with when I was 18 to 21, we always stayed in contact but I always loved him.

One night we hooked up I asked him to use a condom he said, "Why? I'm good!" and that 18 year old girl who loved him to death like 13 years ago didn't push it. If it was anyone else, if u didn't have a condom good bye... but this guy I don't know, now I'm a walking STD.

I hope one day I can be happy again.